tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8197179663823770853.post8479530923857823162..comments2023-08-28T05:33:46.379-05:00Comments on Mommy Always Wins: Tempting fate.Colleen - Mommy Always Winshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06642830408176398204noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8197179663823770853.post-45900003100946199522009-08-21T19:16:06.292-05:002009-08-21T19:16:06.292-05:00I keep asking Justin when we can try to have our l...I keep asking Justin when we can try to have our last baby and he keeps pointing at Cooper saying "he's right there." So then I try asking him why doesn't he want to have any more babies with me and he responds "I don't want to have any more babies with ANYone." Then I told him that he could get a motorcycle as soon as I could get that third baby...he actually gave that one a LOT of thought before shaking his head and walking away.<br />I'm with Green Girl-we seem to know when we're done. I really and truly believe that there is one more baby waiting in heaven to join our family. And while I would be tickled pink and ridiculously ecstatic if it was a girl (because my gosh, the bows! the lacy dresses! the barbie dolls!), I would still be thrilled to have another little boy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8197179663823770853.post-11895347849475885702009-08-19T10:10:48.879-05:002009-08-19T10:10:48.879-05:00And if you do wait until the time is right, you ma...And if you do wait until the time is right, you may have waited too long and end up having to do IVF to the tune of a lot of money...Magpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08239311951910405878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8197179663823770853.post-26331385672561201822009-08-14T10:46:51.114-05:002009-08-14T10:46:51.114-05:00We have always felt that God wouldn't give us ...We have always felt that God wouldn't give us any more than we could handle... seven children later, I still believe that. Is our family complete now? Maybe, but I think I'm ready for some grandbabies next - not soon, mind you, just next. :)Roger Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01831602215904873587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8197179663823770853.post-65353833911967373142009-08-14T06:17:42.555-05:002009-08-14T06:17:42.555-05:00Great post. I agree if we waited till things were ...Great post. I agree if we waited till things were perfect we would never have kids. Good luck and ((hugs)).Secret Mom Thoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18409014239711206789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8197179663823770853.post-19896884334909639242009-08-13T16:07:06.519-05:002009-08-13T16:07:06.519-05:00There is no such thing as the "right" ti...There is no such thing as the "right" time to have kids. Sometimes the decision (either way) is made for us. For me, two was more than enough. I don't judge others for making the decisions they need to about the size of their family, whether it's to have no kids or a busload...well, as long as they can provide for them responsibly (but that's a conversation for another day). <br /><br />I certainly feel for your awkward feelings with your friend. I also grew distant from an old friend who decided to wait until all of life's planets and stars aligned. Life only got more complicated with age - career demands, the failing health of her mother, her hubby's change in jobs, etc. In the end, though, I think she'd agree that it's all turned out the way it's meant to be. I applaud you for staying close despite your differing paths. When you're a parent (especially in those early years) so much of your life is absorbed into parenting that relating to a non-parent can be challenging and the distance creeps in all too easily.<br /><br />(hugs)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8197179663823770853.post-68179955540116300822009-08-13T02:46:39.574-05:002009-08-13T02:46:39.574-05:00If we would have waited we wouldn't have our w...If we would have waited we wouldn't have our wonderful mothers day surprise (i found out on mothers day 2008).TexasBobbihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05129020693107952808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8197179663823770853.post-42328998215791014982009-08-12T10:22:38.691-05:002009-08-12T10:22:38.691-05:00I think moms know when they're done. And most...I think moms know when they're done. And most of us know that there's no perfect time. Even when we think it's perfect timing, then half the time our bodies don't cooperate with our calendar. So we learn we don't truly control this part of life anyway.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8197179663823770853.post-21947767893460959472009-08-11T23:59:23.041-05:002009-08-11T23:59:23.041-05:00I could have written this same post 3 years ago. ...I could have written this same post 3 years ago. I had 2 beautiful children, yet wasn't really sure I was done with that phase of my life. In my experience, if you're not sure if you're done, then you're not done ... now that I have my 3rd, I KNOW I'm done : )<br /><br />Each of my 3 babies was born while a houe was for sale, or we were starting a business, or we were moving out of state, or my husband was starting a new job, or our business was failing ... all 3 of my pregnancies had the stress of everyday life included. But life is going to keep on happening, and if you wait for a perfect time, I don't think you'll ever really find one.<br /><br />Finally, ditto to what Kim H said above me in her last paragraph. A friend's mom once told me that God has 3 answers to prayer: yes, no, or not yet.Denisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18127200050091648905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8197179663823770853.post-396006509883499832009-08-11T22:19:12.464-05:002009-08-11T22:19:12.464-05:00Wow! That was an incredible post, Colleen. That&...Wow! That was an incredible post, Colleen. That's like totally big girl stuff you put out there. <br /><br />You know, it sounds so cliche, but there's never seems to be the perfect or right time to expand your family. <br /><br />I look at each of our kids and when they arrived and where we were in our lives and I think, although they drive me nuts most days, I wouldn't trade a one of them. Sure, there's always going to be a time where it's less complicated or you have more extra money in the bank. I believe you know in your heart the answer. <br /><br />And not to be all holy rollerish, but just keep TRUSTING the big man. He never fails us -- and sometimes HIS timing isn't OUR timing, but that's part of the plan. :)Kim H.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12684666350821801488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8197179663823770853.post-13473149962546193902009-08-11T20:33:47.590-05:002009-08-11T20:33:47.590-05:00When hubs and I were first starting out, I always ...When hubs and I were first starting out, I always thought three would be a nice number. Then I had my daughter and I was so in love with her, I thought only one would be perfect, Then we got preggers with our son, totally planned, and I knew that three would be too much of a stretch - financially, emotionally, physically. There are still times I wonder about what our lives would have been like with a 3rd child. Now, with our daughter turning 20 and grandparenthood not such a distance possibility, I might get that third (grand) baby in a few years after all.Tara R.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02993625193184914299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8197179663823770853.post-2416019402162792492009-08-11T19:34:43.621-05:002009-08-11T19:34:43.621-05:00I could have written much of this post. Just did ...I could have written much of this post. Just did actually. No, yours was much more nicely written. I have a lot of the same issues. I don't know where to begin, but it's so hard seeing your "best" friend not wanting or understand the same things... :-(Marni's Organized Messhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05158521136342223415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8197179663823770853.post-14976030995083648132009-08-11T18:35:49.209-05:002009-08-11T18:35:49.209-05:00Very true. There probably wouldnt be any babies. ...Very true. There probably wouldnt be any babies. That was the argument my husband and I had... me wanting more and him saying we should wait until we were on better footing. Well, if we had waited, more than a decade later, we would still be waiting. So when he said he would only go to marriage counceling when all the bills were paid off, I told him to just divorce me and get it over with because it would never happen like that. <br /><br />But I digress. My youngest is 6. My oldest is turning 19. We have four total. I want a few more. At least 2, maybe 4. I dont know why. I went so far as to research vasectomy reversal. <br /><br />A friend of mine told me to get a puppy. That I was crazy for thinking that just because I wanted it, didnt mean that it was good for the baby to be brought into a family that is up and down like ours. But I want one or two or more. <br /><br />And it has become more than just a PMS thing. I think about it through out the month. Everyday something comes up that makes me think how much I want to continue our family.<br /><br />Even if we argue a bit too much. Even if it is tight financially. Even if he would have to have surgery. Even if I would be high risk because of my age. Even if that possibly meant I couldnt home birth like I did with the others. Even if that meant going back to sleepless nights and spit up.<br /><br />It is a deep seated desire in my heart and I dont see it going away.<br /><br />And it isnt like I dont love the four children I am already blessed with. They are fantastic kids. <br /><br />I cant explain it. I just know what I want.<br /><br />HUGS, love and understanding.<br />AnneAnnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15593051275290789826noreply@blogger.com