tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8197179663823770853.post8636112780909145007..comments2023-08-28T05:33:46.379-05:00Comments on Mommy Always Wins: Mommy guiltColleen - Mommy Always Winshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06642830408176398204noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8197179663823770853.post-76876107214585188942009-05-27T20:49:01.105-05:002009-05-27T20:49:01.105-05:00I'm sorry your weekends have been messed up lately...I'm sorry your weekends have been messed up lately. I have a difficult mother, too - I love her, but she IS difficult. Since having my daughter, I've tried to deal with it more head on (as opposed to avoiding the issues) - both to maintain my sanity and with hopes that I can break the cycle of crazy in our family. Sometimes it means drawing different boundaries; sometimes it means letting things go that would normally bug me.<br /><br />Although...I'll be honest...I'm no good at letting things go. :)Mary @ Giving Up On Perfecthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12879039457971511498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8197179663823770853.post-40504310384921799172009-05-27T12:10:40.926-05:002009-05-27T12:10:40.926-05:00Grandmas - they think they have all the rights to ...Grandmas - they think they have all the rights to fun don't they?! My own mom isn't bad, she is excellent at following our rules. My MIL isn't too bad either - I think she's scared of me. It's my FIL's wife that ruins my life most of the time. So I thought of her while reading your post but the biggest differences are 1) I hate her, certainly don't love her 2) we would NEVER in a million years spend weekends together or go shopping. There would be bloodshed for sure.<br /><br />Hang in there!A Mom Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10822319397897350974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8197179663823770853.post-72830181608800174772009-05-26T15:00:27.293-05:002009-05-26T15:00:27.293-05:00Wish I knew what to tell you ... just know that yo...Wish I knew what to tell you ... just know that you're not alone, and your mom isn't the only one that conveniently forgot what it's like to have kids once grandkids were born. I love my mom dearly, but sometimes I just can't stand being around her ... and it makes me feel horrible! She loves her grandkids deeply too, but seems to have forgotten that there are other ways to say it than crappy Dollar Store toys, candy, donuts, no naps, etc. etc. For everyone's sake, I grit my teeth and let it all happen about once a month. We live 2 hours away, so at times that's a blessing!Denisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18127200050091648905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8197179663823770853.post-53584621566284983562009-05-26T13:57:08.423-05:002009-05-26T13:57:08.423-05:00I want to say drop them in her lap for the weekend...I want to say drop them in her lap for the weekend and see if it happens again but I have a sneaking suspicion that she might send them back even more spoiled. <br /><br />Fiddlesticks.Misshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02050865943958371642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8197179663823770853.post-54000055967149158722009-05-26T12:52:08.064-05:002009-05-26T12:52:08.064-05:00I understand...my mom is actually very regimented ...I understand...my mom is actually very regimented but my MIL is very very laid back. Now that my girls are older, though, it's easier for them to realize that they may get away with going to bed after 10 and eating an entire bag of marshmallows for bedtime snack at my inlaws but that's not the reality at "my house." ;) Luckily neither my mom nor MIL undermines my parenting, though. That stinks!<br /><br />Good for you for taking a computer break. I was pretty much offline most of the weekend although I did sneak on a bit Saturday (addict...cough.) ;)<br /><br />p.s. I voted for you, too! THX!BlondeMomBlog (Jamie)https://www.blogger.com/profile/11678207937709971411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8197179663823770853.post-37900182844770114502009-05-26T12:49:16.163-05:002009-05-26T12:49:16.163-05:00If you have to practice Sanity Management with you...If you have to practice Sanity Management with your own mother, then you are perfectly within your rights to give her the 'ol ixnay on a weekend. At least someone has boundaries in this scenario. <br /><br />I am so sorry.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8197179663823770853.post-74874752039625631082009-05-26T10:35:16.848-05:002009-05-26T10:35:16.848-05:00I feel you! I on the other hand have several sibl...I feel you! I on the other hand have several siblings who are just as bad as mom is. "Oh it is ok that Em did not take a nap today, she will sleep good tonight for you" Little do they understand that Mommy does not go straight home after picking her up and has about 2 to 3 hours of running to do after work before even stepping foot on home base. Oh well what can we do right? They are family and we really can't send them back! What is worse is when they are the in laws!NicEmMOMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00094277671237821270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8197179663823770853.post-85188118275550730042009-05-26T09:13:48.195-05:002009-05-26T09:13:48.195-05:00I feel your pain, or at least I used to. Then I p...I feel your pain, or at least I used to. Then I pulled the plug -literally, well not really but gave the nod to the doc- and now I don't have that problem anymore. I too loved my mom, but suffered every time I indulged her company. Don't feel guilty, feel liberated.WeaselMommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01695797746467444304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8197179663823770853.post-60040236772115648292009-05-26T08:48:32.316-05:002009-05-26T08:48:32.316-05:00I feel you...I kind of have the same kind of relat...I feel you...I kind of have the same kind of relationship going with my mom. She's not a bad person...but every once in a while, she lets me have it right between the eyes:P<br /><br />Luckily, she lives far away...so most of her brutality is by phone;)Cynthiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00625673916138703709noreply@blogger.com