Friday, November 12, 2010

30 days of truth, day 02 - Something you love about yourself.

Unequivocally, without a doubt, I can laugh at myself.

A lot of what I write here are little tales of something stupid I did that I am hoping you'll laugh about with me.

I recently watched a video that was linked to from Karen's blog. Which, if you don't know her or read her blog, you should - she takes amazing photos, and recently wrote a book called The Beauty of Different. Both of which show how awesome she is and she inspires me daily.

In this 20 minute video (which is totally worth watching), a self-proclaimed story-teller/researcher, Dr. BrenĂ© Brown (who has a PhD, people - she's not just some hack) talks about how she dug into one of the most basic principles of "human-ness" - relationships. Essentially, in order to succeed in relationships, you need to allow yourself to be vulnerable. (I'm totally synopsizing a 20-minute video that covers some pretty deep issues in a few sentences - how she gets from there to here is something you'll either have to take my word for or go watch the video. Also? Just used "synopsizing" on my blog.)

Dr. Brown states:
"...vulnerability is the core of shame and fear and our struggle for worthiness, but it appears that it is also the birthplace - of joy, of creativity, of belonging, of love..."
She figured that people who allow themselves to be vulnerable (a.k.a. those who can tell other people on the internet that they once spilt their own pee down the wall while at the doctor's office) can do so because they have a sense of worthiness -- that despite the fact that I might regularly screw up (see this week's bad day post) I believe I am still worthy of being accepted by my friends and family in spite of it.

And so, in that way, I love that I can share my biggest gaffs with you. Cuz most of the time? I'm sure you can relate. And they're pretty darn funny, too.

The List
Day 01: Something you hate about yourself.
Day 02: Something you love about yourself.
Day 03: Something you have to forgive yourself for.
Day 04: Something you have to forgive someone for.
Day 05: Something you hope to do in your life.
Day 06: Something you hope you never have to do.
Day 07: Someone who has made your life worth living for.
Day 08: Someone who made your life hell, or treated you like shit.
Day 09: Someone you didn’t want to let go, but just drifted.
Day 10: Someone you need to let go, or wish you didn’t know.
Day 11: Something people seem to compliment you the most on.
Day 12: Something you never get compliments on.
Day 13: A band or artist that has gotten you through some tough ass days. (write a letter)
Day 14: A hero that has let you down. (letter)
Day 15: Something or someone you couldn’t live without, because you’ve tried living without it.
Day 16: Someone or something you definitely could live without.
Day 17: A book you’ve read that changed your views on something.
Day 18: Your views on gay marriage.
Day 19: What do you think of religion? Or what do you think of politics?
Day 20: Your views on drugs and alcohol.
Day 21: (scenario) Your best friend is in a car accident and you two got into a fight an hour before. What do you do?
Day 22: Something you wish you hadn’t done in your life.
Day 23: Something you wish you had done in your life.
Day 24: Make a playlist to someone, and explain why you chose all the songs. (post the titles and artists and letter)
Day 25: The reason you believe you’re still alive today.
Day 26: Have you ever thought about giving up on life? If so, when and why?
Day 27: What’s the best thing going for you right now?
Day 28: What if you were pregnant or got someone pregnant, what would you do?
Day 29: Something you hope to change about yourself. And why.
Day 30: A letter to yourself, tell yourself EVERYTHING you love about yourself.

1 comment:

Kat said...

Love that you are doing this. I agree, we have to be able to laugh at ourselves (or at least write about it o others can laugh at us!!)